It’s not often that I can say that I’ve been seeing the same guy, exclusively, for six months. And it’s even rarer for me to say that I am still HAPPILY seeing the same guy after six months of exclusive dating. This is a milestone that I have now met.
Although we made things “Facebook Official” on the drive up to Louisville from Tampa (with all my worldly belongings in tow), Ormsby and I had been seeing each several months before that… and we agreed to make the “official” exclusivity date August 2, 2014.
Now this six month thing, while it may seem minor to some of you, is a big deal to us. For Ormsby, because six months is generally when his previous relationships began going sour. For me, because any relationship I’ve had that lasted longer than six months already WAS sour, and continued to BE sour, and I continued to stay due to my predilection for masochism and dedication where dedication was unwarranted. For him, six months usually signaled an impending breakup. For me, six months was simply another day – not worth celebrating, yet celebrated because that’s just what one “did.”
Not anymore. I don’t know what’s happened – I don’t know if I’ve finally grown up, gotten a brain, or just gotten lucky in the relationship department (I mean, because seriously, after everything I’ve been through, a little bit of luck is LONG, LONG overdue). But we are now six months in, things aren’t showing any signs of stopping or souring, and I’m uproariously happy.
Why? There are many reasons, but to name a few…
First? I really love the guy. And if that’s not the best reason for being happy and keeping him around, I don’t know what is.
Second: We talk. Like… about stupid stuff half the time that no one else understands. But also, when things go wrong, we talk about it. We don’t fight about it. It’s quite interesting how constructive those uncomfortable conversations can be when you are actually conversing and not bringing up a billion things that aren’t even relevant to the situation. I’ll admit… I was worried when I moved in with him that it would be like the experience I had in the past – because with Mr. Ex, once we started cohabitating, we argued from the time we got up until the time we went to bed some days. I was worried that history really would repeat itself and I’d find that it’d be the same way here. I was wrong. I’m glad to say I was wrong, because this is one of those times when I really didn’t want to be right. That’s not to say we don’t have “discussions”. We do. But they are not knockdown, drag out fights that end with one of us saying a bunch of shit we don’t mean. And that’s pretty awesome.
I mean I guess it helps that we kind of already “get” each other pretty well. But where we don’t, both of us really make the effort to understand what we don’t understand. Granted, sometimes it takes a while to get there, but I’m finding that taking the time is much, much more preferable to not really ever caring enough to take the time.
Third: The sex is AH-MAZING. And frequent. Like every day, sometimes twice a day frequent. And for someone with a high libido like me, that’s a pretty big deal. He does a very, very good job with keeping up with me (though I think sometimes I wear him out). But then I did also come complete with a very established, $5000 in value lingerie collection. I’m like a brunette Barbie that bought out Victoria’s Secret. They should seriously give me stock in that, since I own fuck tons of their stuff. Anyway, the lingerie collection certainly helps.
Still, though, it hasn’t gotten boring. Far from it. I’d swear it gets better every single time we do it, and considering we really do actually do it on a daily basis (I’m not lying here), that’s saying something. I keep thinking that one day it’s going to level out, but it hasn’t yet, and in total I’ve been fucking him since May of 2014, which is a couple of months longer than I’ve actually been dating him.
For serious… this is the most sex, and the best sex, I’ve ever had in my life.
Fourth: I don’t have to fight with him to go visit my family. Of course, it probably helps that my sister’s German Shepherds just had the most adorable litter of puppies. But even before that, he went with me, he’s friendly, personable, everyone likes him and my friends adore him.
So to celebrate this milestone, you might be wondering what we got each other? Well, to make the day as special as possible, I told him I wanted him to tell me what he wanted for dinner… anything… and I’d make it. I cook every night, of course, but usually the menu is planned by both of us. But we were out that day, we were pretty much out of food in the kitchen, and we were hungry. Instead of cooking, I took him to Mark’s Feed Store, which is where we ate during one of my visits over the summer. They have barbecue there. We ate a lot of it.
And for me? He got me boobs. Now. Let me explain. I have boobs. I didn’t always have them. In high school, the lack thereof was the constant distress of my life, but I didn’t want the fake shit (not that I would have been allowed to get implants anyway). In college, after I got on the pill, I got them. I went from like an A to a C in about a year. It was pretty spectacular. But still, there’s always room for improvement.
And when I say that Ormsby got me boobs, I don’t mean that he paid for implants. I mean they fucking started to grow again. Not a lot. Thank god. Because I don’t want to have to completely overhaul my bra collection again. But they’re definitely filling out. And it wasn’t noticeable at first, but then I started realizing that my bras were a little tighter. And my shirts were fitting differently. And then I asked him if he’d noticed it too, and apparently he has. We pulled out some topless photos he’d taken of me in Florida in the late summer (not posting them, don’t ask), and confirmed it. Crazy shit.
Not complaining. A little more to fill out the dresses, tops, and bras is always a welcome addition.
He doesn’t know how it happened. I certainly don’t know how it happened. But I credit him with it, because he’s literally the only change I’ve made in my life and he plays with them a lot. Maybe he willed it to happen or something. I don’t know. Still, it was a pretty nice (if unexpected) six month anniversary gift.
So we’ve hit a milestone. I am madly in love with this guy. He has barbecue (or had it, till he ate it all); I have boobs. Life is good.